top of page

Time Marches On

When someone mentions the word TIME to you, what happens? Do you notice anything within your body? Do you tense up? Have a wave of anxiety come over you? Feel the need to hurry up?

I have felt compelled to write about TIME today as I feel it is such a powerful driving force in all our lives, but it's something that many of us fear or run away from. Why is this? Where does this pressure come from? And why do we put up with it?

So, let’s start with: what is Time pressure?

Time pressure is a type of psychological stress that occurs when a person has less time available (this is real or perceived) than is necessary to complete a task or obtain a result. When that person feels time pressure, they narrow their focus.

With the whole concept of “less time,” who is putting that pressure on us? Yes, I understand from a practical standpoint, perhaps an appointment or meeting friends for lunch, but what I want to talk about is the association of time with our own value of ourselves, and how many of us (including myself in my 20’s and 30’s) place ourselves at the bottom of the pile when it comes to time, failing to allocate ourselves time for ourselves and for self-development, which in turn benefits our own mental health.

Why do we put pressure on ourselves? Where does this come from?

I truly believe society has a big part to play in this. We are focused so much on achieving, getting, and climbing that ladder, buying all the state-of-the-art things and showing our happiness through material items when really its one load of bullshit. This whole KUWTK is keeping our economies flowing and governments happy.

It is a known fact that you keep yourself busy, so you don’t have to address the issues that are bubbling away under the surface. You know, those hard personal issues around mindset and limiting beliefs?

I for one can tell you my own story with time and how it impacted me. I was incredibly focused on time when I turned 25 and moved to London - suddenly it was like I had come out of the blocks and was running a marathon. Something in me just clicked and the magic number 30 appeared. You know that whole chestnut of when I turn 30, I will have a house, car, and the love of my life. Yep, there is society’s pressures being put right on me, so I went with it. I worked my butt off for 5 years and by the time I was 30 from a financial place, it had paid off massively– I had a good job, salary and was travelling the world…but those things I REALLY wanted, the love and the house, hadn't appeared. So, I moved the goal posts and kept giving myself another year, and then another year and the pressure within me mounted up so high that in the end I left my job, the good life in London and I pressed pause. Now interestingly enough, as soon as I did that the pressure did subside, but up until that point it was there gnawing away at me. I read an Instagram post recently which said what’s the right age to be buying a house, or getting married, or starting a business and all the ages in association with these things were scored out and they had written: ANY AGE! This made me laugh – as it's SO TRUE! Don’t get me wrong even though I pressed pause and I went away and did an incredible amount of soul searching, I still was angry at myself for this whole concept of “wasting time” I think the point I am trying to make here is that it's really important that you spend time with yourself, and you understand really what it is you want in life, what is going to make you happy, and how you are going to spend your time. If you do this then you are far better equipped to deal with the outside world and all those invisible pressures that are put on us by society.

For now, I am a 41-year-old woman, living with my partner, our dog and cat in rented accommodation. For the 25 Year Old Sarah, this would have given me extreme stress due to the fact that:

1) I don’t own my own house (yet)

2) I am not married

3) I have no children.

I can honestly say that it has taken a lot of work for me to LET GO of the concept of TIME and how society thinks I should be living. I am incredibly lucky to have the life I have. Remember this: “it's not about “having” time, it’s about making time”

If you feel that you need support in making major changes in your life to support the life you want to live, then please do reach out and I would be happy to talk to you about options you have to work with me.

The final thing I want to say is that as soon as you start prioritising yourself, magic happens!

15 views0 comments

Recent Posts

See All


bottom of page